Most of us have experienced that feeling of losing control of our emotions and then doing or saying something that we later regret.
Our feelings and emotions can build up inside of us a bit like hot steam in a pressure cooker and if they are not regulated and controlled they can explode.
The problem with holding onto your emotions until bursting point is that it can lead to you getting angry and you may even shout which may give you temporary relief but it can also leave you feeling guilty or embarrassed.
And sometimes as the pressure builds up for some people the only way out is to moan, nag, drink or engage is some other negative pursuit which relieves the tension but wastes energy and the problem remains unsolved.
Some people think that if they hide their feelings they are managing them. But this is really not the case and what happens is that our emotions seem to leak their way out in the form of sighs, fidgeting and nervous laughter. This might bring minor relief but that’s all
So how do you manage your emotions? Here are few thoughts about saying healthy and in control.
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7 Steps to staying healthy 1. Be aware you are feeling something. 2. Recognise and label your feelings. Don’t suppress them. 3. Decide whether you can talk about them or take some other action. 4. If you can’t, ask why not and check whether you are making excuses. 5. Decide how to talk about your feelings, where and when. 6. Try talking to a friend, spouse or the person who triggered the emotion. 7. Relieve the tensions by doing something physical, walking, gardening etc People who are happy and energetic are generally those who can keep the pressure at a reasonable level, by letting their emotions out as they come in but using a positive outlet to manage them. |
Dot Struthers runs tele coaching sessions for teachers wanting to stay in control of their emotions. To get your free monthly CPD newsletter register at www.merechats.co.uk
